That CRUSHing Feeling

Love Won’t Hurt You, It Will Just CRUSH you! –Joke! This feeling depends on how the person handles this sticky situation. Well, my blog today is about crushes. Wonder if all what I’ve said goes on the right track? Let’s read along to find out, if you really want to persevere reading this awfully long entry of mine.

A crush defined is a word used to describe special feelings you have for another person, a classmate, or friend that you really like. It is also said to be a bit like the romantic love adults feel toward one another. It seems as if having a crush on a specific person has been going on in ones life since the time of our ability to walk.

Well, I too had a share of such feelings. I never expected to feel that when I was still very young at about five years old. I can’t remember his name for I had just played with him at that age. We always climb up wall, dig dirt, and do childish stuffs. All I know, he was fun to be with and he treated me nicely as a good friend. I admired him for that. Not all children at that age, especially a boy would enjoy playing with a little girl like me.

Yes, the feeling of having a crush is intense and this is what I exactly felt or somewhat related to these: getting butterflies my stomach, I think about him often, and I sometimes tend to be clumsy around him.

Not all things last forever though. The usual day we met was not what I’ve expected at all. He didn’t arrive. No person to play with, talk with and laugh out loud with. I got sad all of a sudden not knowing why he disappeared. Then, it hit me. I asked my parents about it. They said the boy’s grandma won’t work in ours anymore that is why he didn’t go back, though I still hoped for him to go back. It remained like that for a very long time. Eventually, as time passed by I slowly forgot all about him until, I couldn’t even remember much of those childhood days spent with him. When I grew up, crushes never did touch me as much as when I was younger. It is as if I’ve developed this immunity against them. Just kidding, I always have minor crushes. They tend to disappear overtime it makes no difference at all.

I don't worry because I’m not alone and these feelings are normal and happen to everyone even parents. It would also be a good idea to talk to them about it. Some good ways to bring up such a subject to your mother or father would be asking them of their first crush and then from there bring up the boy or girl you have a crush on but I couldn’t even have the guts to talk much about these things to them. Another good person to talk to would be a person you trust greatly, like a best friend. Also a diary or journal is a good way to let out your feelings of a person, but just remember to keep it in a safe place; from little brothers or sisters, still, I don’t follow what I’ve said about spilling emotions towards crushes here.

Having a crush helps us realize the qualities we like or dislike in a person. Crushes never really seem to be chosen; as they always seem to be coming out of no where and are unexpected. And when thinking of a crush you tend to want someone to have the same reciprocal feelings of having a crush on you. When having a crush the most obvious kind of attraction to them is physical. We are attracted to those who are pleasing to look at. The most common forms of crushes seem to be on a professional athletes or famous celebrities; however, in time we’ll never really meet them in person, but it’s still o.k. to dream and look.

Maybe, not based too much on my own experiences but from what I’ve observed from many people who experienced the same thing as well,

HERE ARE THE POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE SIDES OF HAVING CRUSHES:

The positive side is that happy feeling you got.

The negative side is; what if the feelings aren’t mutual or what if he doesn’t even know I exist? Chances are he or she has probably seen you around school, but doesn’t know your name. However, with celebrities they probably don’t know who you are. But for the guy or girl that goes to your school a couple of ways to possible talk to them is if he or she’s on a sports team and they have a game, compliment him or her on playing, try and be interested in what they like. Sometimes even a simple “hello” will do the trick. Another thing about crushes is if the infatuation is not the same. That’s called a broken heart, but don’t worry you can recover from it. And maybe for some reason they don’t see your great charm and great looks to be appealing to them it is alright too; you can always just have them as a friend because I’m sure that would be great too because chances are you’ll have many more crushes.

Yep, that wraps all about everything I could spill. Too bad I can’t remember the name of the first crush I ever had though. :(